What Mindset Are You Battling in Your Dating Life?
No, a positive mindset won’t save you from ever experiencing a lack of chemistry on a date or dating someone who’s inconsiderate or even rude. But what a positive mindset will do is enable you to move on quickly when you do have these experiences, so you can meet someone who is right for you.
Unfortunately, many singles don’t realize that their complaining or offhanded comments about dating are actually holding them back. That’s why checking in with yourself and asking, “Do I have a positive or negative mindset about dating?” can help.
Less constraints mean more time to explore the world and the opportunities for love in it
If you’re not sure or think the comments you make in your mind or to others are harmless, read on. What follows are a few of the most common complaints singles make about the dating scene and why they can hurt your chances of finding your next relationship.
I hear this all the time and, ironically, about all ages. And to that, I say, ridiculous! Since I became a matchmaker more than 30 years ago, I’ve helped singles ranging from their thirties to their eighties find love. And guess what? Somebody wanted to date someone “their” age.
Since there’s enjoyment to be had at any age, so, too, is there love because people want to share the lives they love with someone special. Plus, love that comes later in life often affords more freedoms than it does when there are more family and career constraints.
Or, the other variant, everyone’s crazy. Really? Not everyone can be flaky or nuts. Not to mention, it raises the other, unavoidable possibility: Perhaps it’s not them who’s crazy, it’s me.
If you write off everyone from the get-go, of course there’s going to be no one out there to date. To be honest, everyone has a little bit of eccentricity to them at times.
How you talk to yourself about dating very much sets the stage for your dating experiences
Therefore, finding a match is very much about finding a person who’s got those quirks you can live with as opposed to the ones that are deal breakers.Leer más »What Mindset Are You Battling in Your Dating Life?